A story I have heard a lot is that college is a cold, strict place. For students, they hear “There is no late work accepted.” “You won’t get the benefit of the doubt.” “You better figure things out because you’re on your own.” “You won’t be able to do x, y, or z in college.” The message? College is a scary place.
As if our first-gen students or anyone else coming to college does not already have a challenging time overcoming imposter syndrome or learning the ropes or having enough gas to get to campus or making sure they get to eat before class! This really is a myth that needs to stop.
This myth doesn't just affect first-gen students, though they may feel its weight more than others. It affects returning students who left college once and are terrified of repeating the experience--we have many in our online classes. It affects students who grew up hearing adults talk about professors as unreachable figures. When students walk through our doors already bracing for rejection, they're less likely to ask for help, less likely to persist through a hard week, more likely to disappear quietly instead of asking for help. The myth costs us students before we even get a chance to show them who we actually are.
I talked with a student in office hours the other day who reiterated a version of this myth to me. She was truly worried about how she would be perceived for asking questions. I did my best to convince her that educators here at GCC would appreciate her asking questions; that is, after all, how students learn. People at GCC do care. They hold office hours hoping students will show up. They send emails checking in on students who've gone quiet. They build in flexibility for when a student is juggling two jobs and a sick parent at home.
How do we change the story? We can be intentional about telling a different story--starting on day one. The way we introduce ourselves, the tone of our syllabus, whether we smile when a student asks a question that's "already in the syllabus.” All of it sends a message. Counter stories don't spread on their own. We have to repeat them wherever we are able.





